Well, the cadet and their boy/girl friend back home are no longer growing "Together". One of the first things parents say when they see their cadet after a few months is how they've matured, become an adult, grown up, Become a man/woman, etc. I don't think that distance is the main problem in a cadet relationship with someone back home. And we do not live far from the academy, and he was able to see her many/most weekends. They stayed together for about 2 1/2 years.
FWIW: My son was still with his girlfriend from high school when he entered the academy. We understand, and are ok with that.Īs others have said it is possible, albeit difficult. The phone calls are just one way he shows it. As tired as he is all the time, he somehow finds the time to talk with his GF almost every day. On a personal level, my C4C DS has a serious relationship back home. Like others said, he may have his phone taken away "just because" for a lot of his freshman year. If you keep expectations of how often he communicates with you low, it can work. Google chat and FaceTime worked for my DS this year. Skype is banned at USAFA, but there are other ways to do video chat that are allowed. Once school starts, they will have personal computers and access to facebook, email, etc.
You can both encourage each other with any tidbits of news you get. Share communication/info/news you get with each other. If you have a good relationship with his mom, all the better. They do get one afternoon in the middle of BCT to make phone-calls home. During BCT, letters will have to do, and don't expect very many reply's. Maintain communication with your BF as much as possible, and in as many ways as you can. Maintaining a long distance relationship takes commitment, patience, and trust. First thing I would add is "Love = Commitment".
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